RE: Acceptance?

Kim,

I love you! We all love you. And I honestly cannot imagine what you are going through right now. You must be angry, frustrated and pretty scared – all understandable given the extreme pressure and challenges that you are going through right now. That said, I can’t speak for my cousins, but I have to say that I feel pretty awkward being copied on these threads. It really seems to me that your brothers and sisters, who you originally reached out to, are sincerely trying to help you. I can’t say that I know everything that has transpired up to this point which makes being included now even more awkward. I’m not sure how Dunc, Tobin, Kendra, Will, Barrett or I can help at this point. And I’m having a hard time understanding why you would include us on these responses beyond just trying to shame your brothers and sisters into doing something beyond what they are trying to do or already doing. Dunc, Tobin, Will and I are hundreds if not thousands of miles away. The last time I checked none of us (meaning myself and my cousins) had significant financial resources to help either.

I know it is sad for me to know how sick you are. It reminds me of both my mom and Grandpa. It is equally sad and shocking to me to know that you are being evicted from your home. As sad as it makes me, it makes me feel a bit helpless to know that I can’t help you beyond just wanting to help you – and that doesn’t do much to improve your situation. My prayer for you is that you find the serenity to accept the things you cannot change, the courage to change the things you can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

I’m sure this is not what you want to hear from me or any of your nieces or nephews – and I hope that this does not diminish how you feel about me in any way. But, I’m not sure what I can do beyond this and I don’t feel that it is appropriate to continue to be copied on the very personal and private emails between you and your mom, brothers and sisters who are clearly doing the best they can to help you.

I love you!

Steve

From: Kim Lancaster [mailto:kiml13@yahoo.com]
Sent: Monday, June 27, 2011 10:42 AM
To: Betty Lancaster; Karen Lancaster; Kermit Lancaster; Kay Fulton
Cc: Steven Lancaster; Barrett Brown; Dunc Fulton; Tobin Fulton; Kendra Lancaster; Will Marsh
Subject: Fw: Acceptance?

----- Forwarded Message -----
From: Kim Lancaster <kiml13@yahoo.com>
To: Kris Marsh <marshnks@yahoo.com>
Sent: Monday, June 27, 2011 12:35 PM
Subject: Re: Acceptance?

I'm so sorry to have been such a burden on on you. Physical pain and emotional fear invokes anger according to the law of the Lancaster's. Best wishes to you and yours..

From: Kris Marsh <marshnks@yahoo.com>
To: Kim Lancaster <kiml13@yahoo.com>
Sent: Monday, June 27, 2011 12:27 PM
Subject: Acceptance?

Kim,

What was that quote about acceptance? I know that Karen, Kay and Mom have tried to support you over the years in more ways than the home-cooked meals they bring you. And many times you have sent nice emails thanking them for their kindness. But as soon as you hit a low point, it seems that you cannot stop yourself from verbally striking out at them with a mean-spirited note as you just sent. You owe Kay a huge apology.

It's time for you to accept that you need to help yourself. Kay forwarded suggestions to you on behalf of all of us when you asked for our thoughts on your situation. Please try to find help in the services available to veterans so that you can find a way to take care of yourself.

I love you, but it is time for you to take more responsibility for yourself.

Krissy