bonobo
okay so i read the sembler thing
so you know, I was in a WWASPS program, and I will never trust again
did you read the link i sent you
k so what's your point with the sembler thing? i forgot if you've already stated it
4:20
clownclown
The world of the power elite is full of sociopathic fucks like Mel Sembler
and I wouldn't be surprised if many of their cheerleaders weren't the same
i am sorry that you had to endure the WWASPS thing
4:21
clownclown
Not your fault
4:22
clownclown
My program survived
4:22
bonobo
have you watched salo?
4:22
clownclown
by paying the local sherrif's department
to hire a new deputy specifically for local schools
4:22
bonobo
for some reason i say salo is my favorite movie
4:22
clownclown
they "donated" that money
My favorite movie is C'est arriv? pr?s de chez vous
4:23
bonobo
i haven't seen it
but yeah salo is my fav movie even though i can't watch it all the way through
i understand your sentiments
4:23
clownclown
It doesn't just happen at the top
4:23
clownclown
corruption in our society is at every level
4:23
clownclown
average people will sell out
4:23
clownclown
very easily
4:24
bonobo
and, to one of your earlier points, i would not say that all the dumbdumbs happen due to privilege
4:24
bonobo
it's due to ignorance
4:24
clownclown
plenty of them just went to public school
okay i detract my last point
yes, it could be argued that it's due to privilege
4:25
clownclown
a certain level of privelege
it doesn't even mean you have a trust fund
4:25
bonobo
i was thinking of privilege as you noted it in reference to trust fund kids
4:25
clownclown
but when you're poor, you dont' believe the lie
as in any other situation when you come face to face with the reality that our society's myths seek to cover up
4:26
bonobo
but the more general term of privilege, as similarly used within theories of general "male privilege" or "white privilege" as used by feminist or equal rights studies
yeah, i would say that the dumbdumbness is due, in part, to privilege
4:26
clownclown
america is a generally priveleged society
4:26
bonobo
i also wouldn't associate it specifically to socio-economic status
4:27
clownclown
not that you can't be a dumbdumb if you grow up in the ghetto
4:27
bonobo
i just don't think there is a catch-all term for why people are ignorant to the atrocities that humans are capable of
4:27
clownclown
you're just never going to become a tom friedman
4:27
bonobo
i wouldn't just attribute it to the american society, though
4:27
clownclown
because they haven't been exposed to them
because those things happen in faraway places
4:27
bonobo
i'm not trying to say you do not have valid points and am not trying to simply be devil's advocate
4:27
clownclown
we're too civilized for that
4:28
bonobo
i'm just saying that it's more universal
and calling out specific people or names or attributing blame to specific industries
i don't think it can be that simple
i guess over the past year or two or so i've been studying/focusing moreso on just general sociology/applied and cultural anthropology
4:28
clownclown
as far as "why are american's so misinformed?"
yes, I can blame the media, 100%
the media is just so broad
4:29
bonobo
"the media" encompasses so much
4:29
clownclown
I blame the television networks, the wire services, and local newspapers
4:29
bonobo
i would probably specify the major, mainstream news outlets and such
rather that just television networks
4:29
clownclown
except none of the other outlets do anything to challenge them
4:30
clownclown
save, of course, the socialist or environmentally focused ones
4:30
bonobo
there are other outlets that DO try
4:30
clownclown
b ut who reads that shit?
4:30
bonobo
you can't expect everyone that DOES sincerely try to actually be able to get to what they're after
that may have to do with intelligence, work ethic, not having time cause of personal things like family, etc
or they may not have the time and have to just cover boring shit because that is what pays and they have to put food on the table
i mean, many really do want something genuine
4:31
bonobo
there are many that want to do that which is *real*
4:31
clownclown
but that's not what pays
let's report on paris hilton
many people cannot handle the serious, dire topics
they're just incapable of handling it
some people are lazy about it, yes, and they should be ashamed of themselves
4:32
clownclown
my thesis
4:32
bonobo
but many are inable to handle these things
not everyone is a revolutionary
4:32
clownclown
is that americans are shielded by the media
from the reality of the human condition
4:32
bonobo
not everyone has the capabilities or qualities of being a leader
4:32
clownclown
in a way that allows them to remain mental children
4:32
bonobo
not everyone is good at risk-taking
4:33
clownclown
for their entire lives
i would not blame the media for many being children
and do not develop past that
4:33
clownclown
the media isn't going to do anythign to challenge it
4:33
bonobo
there are just too many variables/factors involved
4:33
clownclown
I really think
that people learn to be this way
4:33
bonobo
eh, not really
it isn't really just that, though
4:34
clownclown
it's not JUSt that
4:34
bonobo
most people cannot handle it
4:34
clownclown
but that is an organizing factor in our society
4:34
bonobo
yes, that is true
4:34
clownclown
when people are 20, 30 years old
and they have an encounter with reality
let's say they get mugged
4:34
bonobo
also, our stages of development are changing (as with the times)
4:34
clownclown
they don't know what to make of it!
4:34
bonobo
there was some feature somewhere on psychologists coining a new developmental stage
like, a century ago, "adolescence" was being proposed as a developmental stage
4:34
clownclown
I'm not talking about kidulthood
4:35
bonobo
before that it was childhood
4:35
clownclown
I mean 50 year old men and women
who still haven't figured things out
4:35
bonobo
20-30 is considered a new developmental stage
some of that could be attribtued to intelligence
or environmental/situational factors
4:35
clownclown
environment
4:35
bonobo
their rearing and developmental influences
4:35
clownclown
what is the current american environment?
4:35
clownclown
I would say it's in the realm of information
this is where we are headed
4:36
clownclown
and who controls that world?
4:36
clownclown
the people who produce media for it
4:36
clownclown
not the world that you live in to make toast
but the world that informs you of what the people inf rance are like
4:36
bonobo
i mean, the past 50 years have been the information revolution
we are in the information age
4:36
clownclown
if you hav enever been to france
4:36
bonobo
(the terms have already been coined and established by academics)
4:36
clownclown
where do your opinions on that country come from?
4:37
clownclown
from television programs you have seen, comments from people you know, stuff you have read in the newspaper, maybe some high school textbooks
4:37
bonobo
i don't usually formulate much solid opinions on things i am ignorant of or do not have a propensity for understanding
i don't have opinions on varying theories in theoretical physics
i know what i do, i know what i'm good at, and i pretty much stick to that
but, also, i have a very academic background
i am not the typical american
4:38
clownclown
that's good
4:38
bonobo
you are not either
there are always exceptions to the rules
4:39
clownclown
the important thing
4:39
bonobo
you, sir, are an exception
4:39
clownclown
is to look within
recognize what culture is
and where your cultural beliefs come from
4:39
bonobo
the main bit of your argument that i've been criticizing is that you're applying the standards you have for yourself, as an exception, to those whom are much, much different
and i just don't think it's very fair to judge them so *harshly*, is all
yes, it is good to be critical of things and such
4:40
clownclown
so, the 90%ers
I can't blame them for destroying america
4:40
clownclown
even though they assisted it at every step
4:40
bonobo
that the 90%ers
those people make up the job force
4:40
clownclown
and could have/should have known better
4:41
bonobo
yes, much of the 10%ers are amongst the top of their varying industries
because the top is the top
4:41
clownclown
you will find
that many among the upper class
4:41
bonobo
but if you're attributing your criticisms for the top 10%'s foibles
to the 90%ers within an *entire* industry
well, that's just not a fair criticism
everyone who works for cnn
4:41
bonobo
how many people work for cnn?
4:41
clownclown
thousands
4:42
clownclown
I'mt alking the camera man, the woman who sweeps the floors
4:42
bonobo
what types of jobs are at cnn?
4:42
clownclown
Because they support evil
4:42
bonobo
i know you feel very strongly about these things
and i do not dismiss your sentiments
nor am i saying they are invalid concerns
4:43
clownclown
without them, it is not possible
4:43
bonobo
they are very applicable concerns for society
but some people just need to eat
4:43
clownclown
you can say they are only trying to support themselves
4:43
bonobo
some people's concern is not for the world
4:43
clownclown
I agree, I understand
but that doesn't excuse what they do
4:43
bonobo
most people are just trying to live their life
most people just want a simple life
most people just want to have their family
4:43
clownclown
You are the sum of your actions on this planet
4:43
bonobo
they want to see their kids smile when they come home for dinner
4:43
clownclown
one day you will dissipate
and the only thing that will be left
4:44
bonobo
they want to have a family
they want to be able to feed their children
that is the extent of their concerns
a job is a job to most people
most people do not *care*
4:44
clownclown
I understand, fully
but that doesn't mean they aren't responsible
4:45
bonobo
yes, most people that do not care are the cogs in the wheel
that bulldozes others less fortunate
and that is an unfortunate cycle
but i'm just saying that most people do not have the luxury to choose those things
when they need to provide the most basic things for themselves and their family to survive
most people lead simple lives and simply want to survive
all of their energy is put toward that
4:47
bonobo
they are unable to achieve the upper bigs of maslow's hierarchy
4:47
bonobo
i am not saying that they are unable to for their entire lives
for periods of time, yes, it happens
i've done a lot of things that i didn't want to do because i needed to eat
have i done work for very vapid shit? yes
i'd obviously rather be paid to do work for things that align with my personal philosophy
but i didn't have other options
many people do not have many options at times
throughout this conversation
we keep speaking in generalizations
so that convolutes the message a bit
4:49
clownclown
I understand, completely that sentiment
and I don't blame you, or anyone, for cooperating with evil
4:50
bonobo
i wouldn't say vapidity is neccessarily "evil"
4:50
clownclown
but that doesn't change that you are cosmically responsible for all of your actions during this lifetime
4:50
bonobo
i worked at an alt weekly
i dunno why it popped in my head
i dunno, it sorta reminds me of what i'd say to people sometimes
you know, like, those people that always have to "win"?
especially with arguing and arguments and such
i was talking to one of my clients the other day about it
he's one of those types of people
(he's super narcissitic, btw)
its just so inherently retarded to have that "have to win" sentiment fueling your arguments with your personal and intimate relationships
and it's really ineffective
because, sure, you may have "won" the argument
but even though you've won the battle, you may have lost the war
(he has really wretched relationships and i'm bscly his therapist at times cause he tells me his girl problems, lol)
so, basically, he wins a billion of the battles
but he always loses the war
(i.e. his gfs get fed up and break up with him)
4:54
clownclown
So you're saying black and white thinking, even if technically correct, will only lead to unhappiness?
4:54
bonobo
i guess i just felt that aligned with your sentiment
"but that doesn't change that you are cosmically responsible for all of your actions during this lifetime"
i mean, like, no one is perfect
and no one can have a perfect record
but, as you said, it's the sum of one's actions throughout their lifetime
4:56
clownclown
Absolutely
4:57
bonobo
and it isn't to say that the battles we fight in our lifetime have not had their consequences
actions have consequences
it's really silly when people don't realize that
and yeah, people may be hurt, you may have inflicted pain on this or that person, casualities will happen
but, again, the sum of one's actions over their lifetime
i'm just saying that i don't think the entirety of all cnn employees should be so scrutinized
4:58
clownclown
they are not all equally responsible
but they are all responsible
4:58
bonobo
just not SOO incredibility scrutinized
4:59
bonobo
which is a true statement
but if you're going to use that argument
and if everyone is responsible
then i'm not quite sure why you're highlighting specifically cnn
and yes, you did generalize the entire media industry
4:59
clownclown
because cnn misinforms the populace and makes atrocities possible
4:59
bonobo
but why not every other communication industry?
why not every business industry?
5:00
bonobo
the education system?
and yes, you can attribute blame to them
5:00
bonobo
and then you can go further and attribute blame to every english speaking country
5:00
clownclown
thank you
5:00
bonobo
and then every other single person on this planet
if you're going to do that
5:00
clownclown
There are people doing bad, people helping them, and people looking the other way
5:00
bonobo
doesn't that just put everyone on the same level again
5:00
clownclown
and they are all responsible
5:01
clownclown
some more than others
i'm just saying that this is all understood
5:01
clownclown
Is Mubarak a bad guy or just really misunderstood?
5:01
clownclown
How about his secretary?
5:01
bonobo
i'm not saying that
5:02
clownclown
How about the guy who sweeps his floor and overhears his conversations?
5:02
bonobo
i'm just saying that blame cannot be blanketed over an entire entity
because there are individuals involved
5:02
clownclown
when an entire entity has failed it's job
blame can be distributed widely
5:02
bonobo
i'm just saying that, yes, you can pin point a general cause for certain things
and then you continue further and look at more of the details
and then figure out things on an individual basis
i'm just basically saying
you don't need to be so angry
5:03
bonobo
because if blame is universal
and responsibility is universal
and if everyone is to blame and everyone is responsible
well, alright, we solved that problem
so how are we going to fix it?
5:04
clownclown
stop working for assholes
5:04
bonobo
well, assholes will not disappear
so stop doing what they tell you
5:04
bonobo
assholes will always exist
there is no way to escape
5:04
clownclown
stop listening to them
5:04
bonobo
okay, well, what if you have no other job options?
5:04
clownclown
fuck off asshole
5:04
bonobo
and you need to put food on the table?
what if you have a family?
what if you have people that depended on you?
5:05
clownclown
I would steal
before I would work for an asshole
5:05
bonobo
well, if you have people that depend on you, and you disagree with working with assholes, yet you have no other job options, you will probably endure the asshole boss/company because you will put your own wants/needs/desires behind your love for the people under your care
and this happens sometimes
some people may quit their job
well, maybe they stole something from another person that put them out quite a bit
5:06
clownclown
I would beg, I would move my whole family into a shelter, before I would cooperate with evil
5:06
bonobo
and then a vindictive cycle may continue
what if that shelter did not make your wife feel safe?
what if your children did not feel safe?
what if your four year old daughter, whom is readily complacent with the scenario, is unable to sleep and wets her bed every night due to the move to the shelter
she doesn't know why she wets her bed
she tries to not wet her bed
5:08
bonobo
but she's only four years old and doesn't understand and doesn't know how to process these things
5:08
clownclown
the real answer
5:08
bonobo
and she can pick up on the stress you and mommy have
5:08
clownclown
is I would never put myself in such an impossible situation
5:08
bonobo
you hide it though, through smiles
you bought her a new teddy bear
because you lost the old one throughout the move
i told myself i'd never put myself in an impossible situation
5:09
clownclown
condoms break, I know
5:09
bonobo
oh, i don't have kids
5:09
clownclown
and that's their problem
that's just silly and hypocritical
5:09
clownclown
no it isn't
having children is a selfish act
5:10
clownclown
yes it is
you have space in your home, you can raise a child
5:10
bonobo
there are too many motivators and variables for having children
sometimes people get knocked up
5:10
clownclown
and so you choose to create one of your own, rather than adopt one without a home
and you call that not selfish?
5:10
bonobo
hey, you know, i had a similar thought at times
some people's only motivation in life is to have a happy family
5:11
clownclown
what's so great about you that a child should have to live with yoru genes
and that's a ridiculous motivation unless you are already saddled with one
5:11
bonobo
why are you so bitter about your childhood?
why are you so bitter about your parents?
5:11
clownclown
Because they locked me in a prison and brainwashed me and failed to apologize?
5:12
bonobo
i'm sorry you did not get the love you deserved as a child
5:12
clownclown
Because they were incapable of managing their own lives yet decided bringing a new one into the world would solve their problems?
5:12
bonobo
i'm sorry you were emotionally abandoned
5:13
clownclown
they don't see it that way
That was an act of love to them
some people just do not know
5:13
clownclown
enlightenment is within reach of all humans
5:13
bonobo
you have overcome
5:14
clownclown
tards included
5:14
bonobo
you are a strong person
5:14
clownclown
not even!
Compared to what most children go through on this planet, we are very fortunate!
5:14
bonobo
and your past has only strengthened the natural strength of your convictions thaty ou have now
but it doesn't change the fact that you were wronged
5:14
clownclown
We all are
5:15
bonobo
and that is not right
5:15
clownclown
But that's life
5:15
bonobo
you deserve it now
5:15
clownclown
I'm not looking for it
5:15
bonobo
you deserve to be loved
5:15
clownclown
You realize I may not be autistic
But I have an autistic worldview
5:16
bonobo
you're bitter
I see things for what they are
And that's ugly, but it cannot be avoided
5:16
bonobo
if anything, you're dysthymic as hell
5:17
clownclown
that's what alcohol is for
5:17
bonobo
i know you are fully aware that self-medication stunts emotional development
5:17
clownclown
emotions are chemical
unless you've undergone brain damage
your memories and thoughts will be there
and will and have affected your behaviors and motivations subconsciously
you've gone through a lot
you don't want to have to fight that anymore
you used all your energy and strength to simply survive it
5:18
clownclown
I don't, I accept it
5:19
bonobo
and, hey, here you are
but you don't feel completely alive because something inside you died long ago
5:20
bonobo
you were just a kid
that's what traumatic stress does
5:20
clownclown
look up the definition
alteration in system of meanings
5:20
bonobo
yes, i have had post-traumatic stress
i am not saying these things in which to label you
how old were you when you first attempted suicide?
5:21
clownclown
uhhhhhhhhh
5:21
bonobo
i swallowed 300 pills of aspirin in three gulps
5:22
clownclown
I never seriously attempted suicide
i've almost died a few times, apparently
5:22
clownclown
but I tested the strength of a towel to hang myself from my closet
5:22
bonobo
i was in the ICU for a week back then
5:23
clownclown
and ended up seizing and collapsing into the beanbag chair which was in my closet for some reason
and forgetting what I was doing
beanbag chair in a closet?
sorry i just think that's funny
5:23
clownclown
it took me a couple hours to figure out
5:23
bonobo
"fate" could be argued
5:23
clownclown
why am I here
5:24
clownclown
no, I just didn't bother dying it correctly
5:24
bonobo
and you know you have a purpose
you know you have a purpose
5:24
clownclown
I can have suicidal ideation
5:24
bonobo
you're here for a reason
5:24
clownclown
for a few weeks straight
because I can correctly identify it
5:24
bonobo
whether it's some celestial force
your own self-determination
hehe 
5:25
clownclown
I am here because of a chemical accident
5:25
clownclown
if youw ant to takek the long view
5:25
clownclown
the short one
5:25
bonobo
we can go the celestial/fate route
5:26
clownclown
my father is really good at seducing women
5:26
clownclown
but cannot get past that point
and has had 6 or 7 marriages
5:26
bonobo
sometimes people call things miracles
5:26
clownclown
but they all fall apart within a couple months
5:26
bonobo
people call childbirth miracles
the miracle of childbirth
5:26
bonobo
my dad was married 6 times
5:26
clownclown
like when a mother in africa dies giving birth
to a son she passes HIV to
5:26
bonobo
it's all perspective
not the medical fact you just stated
also, though, i have to go work with my main client (the narcissistic dude) in 30 min
5:28
clownclown
You are actually a social worker or somethin
5:28
bonobo
he's this private art dealer that sells to like the ceo of chanel and bergdoff goodman and whatever
5:28
bonobo
he sells peter saul's work
and is buddies with gary panter
it's actually really funny
it's really transgressive
and a bit "degenerate" as some may perceive
5:29
bonobo
google peter saul
hilarious factoid about clientdude
so his ex-gf of 2.5 years was laura ingraham
his favorite band is danzig
5:30
bonobo
he convinced laura ingraham to like the sex pistols
5:30
clownclown
narcissist
5:30
clownclown
I thought NPD people just preyed on eachother
that only happens in ayn rand novels
5:31
bonobo
i know, right?