me: because I haven't had a cat in a while and I love them me: but not now, will be moving soon so should wait till NYC evilevilcouch@gmail.com: k evilevilcouch@gmail.com: yay minou can have a kitty friend! :) me: well, hopefully Minou will like other kitties evilevilcouch@gmail.com: minou does!! me: good evilevilcouch@gmail.com: minou <3s other kitties evilevilcouch@gmail.com: she likes having a kitty friend me: she needs to have another kitty then evilevilcouch@gmail.com: and gets sad when her kitty friends move me: it improves their quality of life evilevilcouch@gmail.com: it does!!! evilevilcouch@gmail.com: :) me: do you think Mirna is attractive? evilevilcouch@gmail.com: yeah she's pretty me: good evilevilcouch@gmail.com: lol why? me: she owes me sexual favors due to an agreement we made years ago whereby if I got famous I got to do whatever I wanted to her me: and I want you to fuck around with her when we go to Austin me: and she's agreed evilevilcouch@gmail.com: lol evilevilcouch@gmail.com: i don't like being forced into those scenarios me: you're not forced evilevilcouch@gmail.com: i know evilevilcouch@gmail.com: but me: I just wanted to see if you'd be interested evilevilcouch@gmail.com: being told what to do turns me off me: and cut to the chase and all that me: I'm not telling you what to do evilevilcouch@gmail.com: yeah, i know me: you have that option evilevilcouch@gmail.com: kk me: we'll think about it evilevilcouch@gmail.com: i'll consider it me: but, yeah, I want to see you with another girl and she's convenient and you'll like her anyway me: also she's my lawyer lol evilevilcouch@gmail.com: lol evilevilcouch@gmail.com: well me: and I want my life to be as wacky as possible me: so evilevilcouch@gmail.com: i'd prob rather not do it with her then evilevilcouch@gmail.com: because evilevilcouch@gmail.com: i would rather objectify the other person me: YOU SHOULD HUMP MY LAWYER evilevilcouch@gmail.com: and she doesn't seem like a sub me: you can do that evilevilcouch@gmail.com: she prob wouldn't like it me: you have to be dominant? me: are you sure? me: how experienced are you in lesbian sexuality? me: she's good, sweetheart evilevilcouch@gmail.com: hold on me: she and my friend Liz used to seduce all the girls your age back at Hockaday and Ursuline evilevilcouch@gmail.com: k clientdude left evilevilcouch@gmail.com: i am not seduced by females evilevilcouch@gmail.com: i seduce them evilevilcouch@gmail.com: or they swoon for me me: well, this should be interesting then evilevilcouch@gmail.com: and are taken aback by me evilevilcouch@gmail.com: yeah evilevilcouch@gmail.com: in that evilevilcouch@gmail.com: it prob won't happen evilevilcouch@gmail.com: lol me: because Mirna is a charismatic girl me: we'll see me: it will be exciting anyway evilevilcouch@gmail.com: lol evilevilcouch@gmail.com: if there's anything to know about me me: just to see what happens evilevilcouch@gmail.com: is that i can't be forced into anything me: no shit you can't evilevilcouch@gmail.com: so evilevilcouch@gmail.com: don't me: I'm simply making a request/suggestion evilevilcouch@gmail.com: try to force it to happen evilevilcouch@gmail.com: the more you egg it on the more it turns me off evilevilcouch@gmail.com: you're doing it the wrong way me: rather than secretly trying to make it happen evilevilcouch@gmail.com: that would be silly as well me: well, in my experience, openness is the way to proceed, but if you prefer another method I'll respect that evilevilcouch@gmail.com: you can make suggestions me: Thank you evilevilcouch@gmail.com: and say things like "i think it would be hot if you and mirna did it" evilevilcouch@gmail.com: and i'd prob be all "o cewl bro" me: well, that's what I meant to convey evilevilcouch@gmail.com: lol me: read what I wrote you me: I asked you if you think she's attractive evilevilcouch@gmail.com: it isn't that, dude me: then told you I wanted her to do something with you me: basically, I'm telling her what to do, not you evilevilcouch@gmail.com: yeah me: but that's because I've earned it with her evilevilcouch@gmail.com: but that idea never popped up in my head initially me: I haven't earned the right to tell you to do anything me: of course not, you barely know her me: I wanted to suggest that idea to you me: I'm not a bad guy, okay? evilevilcouch@gmail.com: lol evilevilcouch@gmail.com: i know me: I don't tell girls what to do evilevilcouch@gmail.com: :-p evilevilcouch@gmail.com: lol evilevilcouch@gmail.com: barrett me: lol wut evilevilcouch@gmail.com: that wasn't what i was trying to say me: I know evilevilcouch@gmail.com: it's sorta like with my friend darryl evilevilcouch@gmail.com: he knows how i work me: I just wanted to start the inquiry evilevilcouch@gmail.com: like, for example, if he wants me to get drinks with him evilevilcouch@gmail.com: he tells me to arrive 3-4 hours than when he wants me to get there evilevilcouch@gmail.com: so i get there on time evilevilcouch@gmail.com: but, that's specifically with him me: gotcha me: think I understand evilevilcouch@gmail.com: cause he likes to get drinks either super early or like early evening evilevilcouch@gmail.com: not normal bar time evilevilcouch@gmail.com: and like evilevilcouch@gmail.com: for this even thing he organized evilevilcouch@gmail.com: i designed the flyer evilevilcouch@gmail.com: but see evilevilcouch@gmail.com: i decided to design the flyer because he said his friend matt was going to design it evilevilcouch@gmail.com: and i was all "oh jesus christ you're all going to fucking do it wrong. i'll do it." evilevilcouch@gmail.com: lol evilevilcouch@gmail.com: but when darryl asks favors of me evilevilcouch@gmail.com: i always put it on lowest priority evilevilcouch@gmail.com: because it's a favor and i put paying stuff over his stuff evilevilcouch@gmail.com: also, darryl and i have a special relationship evilevilcouch@gmail.com: hahaha evilevilcouch@gmail.com: our conversations usually include this dialogue: evilevilcouch@gmail.com: "fuck you, darryl" evilevilcouch@gmail.com: "oh, nicole loehr. how i love you" evilevilcouch@gmail.com: "EAT A DICK YOU FUCKING COCKASS BITCH" evilevilcouch@gmail.com: "*kissies*" evilevilcouch@gmail.com: "..." evilevilcouch@gmail.com: ":D" evilevilcouch@gmail.com: "...w/e" evilevilcouch@gmail.com: ":D" evilevilcouch@gmail.com: "*sigh* i love you too, darryl" me: who is this guy again? me: I remember the name evilevilcouch@gmail.com: my friend darryl from hs me: my mom accidentally threw away the loose weed on my desk me: but she brought over an air purifier machine evilevilcouch@gmail.com: he went to cistercian and was my only private school friend that also did visual art and wrote spoken word evilevilcouch@gmail.com: lol evilevilcouch@gmail.com: why me: so now our air is purified evilevilcouch@gmail.com: did you tell her that i'm allergic to dust mites me: she was cleaning and doesn't know me: no me: it's weird me: actually it's not weird me: she used to put a vaporizer in my room evilevilcouch@gmail.com: how so? me: it's just a coincidence, I haven't talked to her about you much because I'm trying to keep her at arm's length evilevilcouch@gmail.com: lol me: I just told her your work background, etc evilevilcouch@gmail.com: ah, interesting evilevilcouch@gmail.com: like what? me: DMA grant, Observer, other freelance work me: she's a freelancer herself so she knows about these things evilevilcouch@gmail.com: oh evilevilcouch@gmail.com: what things evilevilcouch@gmail.com: lol evilevilcouch@gmail.com: <3 evilevilcouch@gmail.com: btw me: just freelancing, etc evilevilcouch@gmail.com: when i may say things about how you may taking the wrong approach to convincing me to do something or whatever (as an example) evilevilcouch@gmail.com: or just any other sorta or rhetorical device evilevilcouch@gmail.com: within conversation with me evilevilcouch@gmail.com: it isn't saying like evilevilcouch@gmail.com: you're doing it "wrong" evilevilcouch@gmail.com: (even though i may say that) evilevilcouch@gmail.com: but i'm just quirky about certain things evilevilcouch@gmail.com: is all evilevilcouch@gmail.com: lol evilevilcouch@gmail.com: i think it's more inherent to my individual quirks than anything me: I understand, sweetheart evilevilcouch@gmail.com: but that sorta thing happens with time me: every girl differs me: and you differ more than most evilevilcouch@gmail.com: so it's not like i expect you to just immediately pick up on it evilevilcouch@gmail.com: so don't get super frustrated about it if/when it happens evilevilcouch@gmail.com: lol evilevilcouch@gmail.com: like, sometimes certain things may super "piss me off" evilevilcouch@gmail.com: but it's really arbitrary in the grand scheme of things evilevilcouch@gmail.com: like evilevilcouch@gmail.com: darryl makes me curse like a fucking sailor evilevilcouch@gmail.com: but he's one of my favorite people evilevilcouch@gmail.com: hahaha evilevilcouch@gmail.com: and he considers me one of his bffs me: very good evilevilcouch@gmail.com: hrm evilevilcouch@gmail.com: we should hang out with more peoples evilevilcouch@gmail.com: not like evilevilcouch@gmail.com: we're being too isolated or whatever evilevilcouch@gmail.com: but so you can get a better idea of me/my personality/how i normally react and interact with people and how i interact differently with the different types of people out there evilevilcouch@gmail.com: and the same with yous evilevilcouch@gmail.com: :D evilevilcouch@gmail.com: lol evilevilcouch@gmail.com: k yous at home? evilevilcouch@gmail.com: want me to spend the night? me: yes evilevilcouch@gmail.com: i don't care either way, but my shoulder hurts and i like your bed lol me: Mirna: i want to help you on the screenwriting AND i want a part or i will hate you forever of course i have helped lots of people with scriptytypethings evilevilcouch@gmail.com: like srsly i sleep better me: me: Sweetheart, I'm giving you a part because I'm going to capitalize on your charm evilevilcouch@gmail.com: lol, oh? me: Mirna: i helped tyler with his treatments too but he was stubborn and didnt give me much to work with oh so now i can't make threats? evilevilcouch@gmail.com: hahaa me: me: no shit he was Mirna: I"M LEBANESE its what we do dammit dammit barrett KING OF KINGS evilevilcouch@gmail.com: lololol me: me: hey, what party runs Lebanon right now? Oh, right I forgot ANARCHY LOL ANARCHY evilevilcouch@gmail.com: hahahahaha evilevilcouch@gmail.com: btw, one thing that all my friends know evilevilcouch@gmail.com: is that no one can be a cunt or try and be intimidating with me in order to convince me to do something evilevilcouch@gmail.com: yelling, being stupid stern, etc just makes me shut off me: well, hopefully I don't do that evilevilcouch@gmail.com: yeah evilevilcouch@gmail.com: i mean, like, lol evilevilcouch@gmail.com: i dunno evilevilcouch@gmail.com: i listen pretty well evilevilcouch@gmail.com: and am pretty calm and open about discussing things evilevilcouch@gmail.com: but if anyone starts spouting off "you're wrong" "i'm right" bullshit i check out evilevilcouch@gmail.com: basically evilevilcouch@gmail.com: if anyone does anything my sister would do evilevilcouch@gmail.com: i walk away from the discussion evilevilcouch@gmail.com: or try to change the topic evilevilcouch@gmail.com: she gets super indignant about shit evilevilcouch@gmail.com: "me me me!!!" evilevilcouch@gmail.com: etc me: Okay, do I do that? evilevilcouch@gmail.com: eh, it's not like you necessarily specifically do that me: Because when two people disagree, both imply that they are right me: that's the nature of the disagreement evilevilcouch@gmail.com: there are certain rhetorical devices that are similar to those that she employs evilevilcouch@gmail.com: um evilevilcouch@gmail.com: well evilevilcouch@gmail.com: there's a difference between a debate and a discussion me: everything is similar to everything evilevilcouch@gmail.com: i like learning new things evilevilcouch@gmail.com: i'm very open to hearing things out evilevilcouch@gmail.com: but also i usually explain things within certain terminology me: Does anything I tell you really compare to what your terrible sister says? evilevilcouch@gmail.com: and so you don't know exactly how i go about that yet, really evilevilcouch@gmail.com: we're still getting to know each other evilevilcouch@gmail.com: eh evilevilcouch@gmail.com: you debate me: Do you not debate? evilevilcouch@gmail.com: not when it's about the relationship evilevilcouch@gmail.com: debating has no place in that sort of discussion evilevilcouch@gmail.com: love does not spit daggers me: When I debate me: for work me: I do so in an effort to get to the truth me: and to clarify me: when you and I have these discussions me: I am doing it for the same purpose evilevilcouch@gmail.com: yeah evilevilcouch@gmail.com: but evilevilcouch@gmail.com: i think me: I am not trying to "win" me: in this case evilevilcouch@gmail.com: the past two nights evilevilcouch@gmail.com: you were super drunk evilevilcouch@gmail.com: and i was super sober me: because I know that's impossible evilevilcouch@gmail.com: so i think that's really the main problem evilevilcouch@gmail.com: lol me: I wasn't super drunk last night me: I wasn't drunk at all last night me: until right before we went to bed and I drank scotch me: even then I wasn't really drunk evilevilcouch@gmail.com: well, last night was residual from the previous two nights me: yes evilevilcouch@gmail.com: i think evilevilcouch@gmail.com: it's okay evilevilcouch@gmail.com: if we leave it alone evilevilcouch@gmail.com: because i think it's all about nothing evilevilcouch@gmail.com: and last night evilevilcouch@gmail.com: like evilevilcouch@gmail.com: when you got super pissed and were going to leave me: well, yeah. I'm fine with everything. I think you have objections, whereas I'm fine with you evilevilcouch@gmail.com: i realized i'd be in that sort of a huff too evilevilcouch@gmail.com: and then i was like me: I appreciate that evilevilcouch@gmail.com: wait...this is all so stupid. why are we doing this after only three weeks. we can't get to the answers because we don't really know each other yet. so. um. yeah. this is dumb. me: yep evilevilcouch@gmail.com: i do need more nikki time though evilevilcouch@gmail.com: and minou time me: we should be marathon fucking and jogging and playing games me: yes, you do me: that helps evilevilcouch@gmail.com: yep evilevilcouch@gmail.com: lol evilevilcouch@gmail.com: i get really D: when i don't get minou or nikki time me: we're going to get in fights if we're together 24/7 me: anyone would evilevilcouch@gmail.com: yeah me: and it doesn't help that I'm getting off the most powerful drug class in the world evilevilcouch@gmail.com: like omfg evilevilcouch@gmail.com: when i was in europe for two weeks with my friend judee evilevilcouch@gmail.com: jesus we lasted like 4 days me: I'm glad we've been together for all this time, though, despite the fights evilevilcouch@gmail.com: maybe five evilevilcouch@gmail.com: lol me: right evilevilcouch@gmail.com: yeah evilevilcouch@gmail.com: 24/7 is just ridic for anyone evilevilcouch@gmail.com: though me: but even when we got in fights, when I realized that the only thing that upset me is you being mad at me, I realized that I can't just get mad and be stubborn and back off like usual because I love you evilevilcouch@gmail.com: the fact that we've been together 24/7 so long and the tiffs didn't start till later is significant evilevilcouch@gmail.com: lol evilevilcouch@gmail.com: :-p evilevilcouch@gmail.com: :) me: SMILEY FACE THING evilevilcouch@gmail.com: teeheeheehohoho me: SPINS AROUND FROM HORIZONTAL TO VERTICAL ETC evilevilcouch@gmail.com: lol me: ah, tee hee, I don't know! evilevilcouch@gmail.com: i'm on adium me: ^______________^ evilevilcouch@gmail.com: :-p me: ^___________^ me: ^_____________^ evilevilcouch@gmail.com: yeah i usually get sick of someone after 48 hrs with them me: no shit evilevilcouch@gmail.com: lol me: people are ridiculous me: especially me evilevilcouch@gmail.com: hahahahaha evilevilcouch@gmail.com: yep me: I mean, look at what I do all day evilevilcouch@gmail.com: yeah evilevilcouch@gmail.com: bscly me: it's a combination of computer games and fucked up cyberwar shit evilevilcouch@gmail.com: lol evilevilcouch@gmail.com: yep me: and me narrating my every move me: in a funny voice evilevilcouch@gmail.com: lol me: better get used to that, sweetheart me: and telling you how great I am evilevilcouch@gmail.com: i would normally wake up around 8ish, masturbate, shower, get dressed, cuddle minous, then go to the studio evilevilcouch@gmail.com: then i'd prob be most productive during the morning evilevilcouch@gmail.com: when noon or 1pm hits, i sorta hit this lull evilevilcouch@gmail.com: and dick around online and don't get much done for the next 3-4 hours evilevilcouch@gmail.com: or i may stay productive all day me: well, that's part of the problem evilevilcouch@gmail.com: then i'm useless in the early evening me: you have to have your productive time to be happy evilevilcouch@gmail.com: and around 10-11pm i get my second wind me: I understand that entirely evilevilcouch@gmail.com: sometimes i take a nap in the afternoon me: we need to adapt to a schedule that allows us to do our thing and then be together evilevilcouch@gmail.com: before i'd like wake up at 6am, exercise, cook breakfast, get here around 8am, work till i'm dead (~2-3pm) go tan or exercise or dick around online, then go home and nap for an hour or two, then wake up and internet or do chores, cook dinner, then do something productive in the evening, then pass out evilevilcouch@gmail.com: i'm sorta useless in the afternoon evilevilcouch@gmail.com: i don't get much done at all evilevilcouch@gmail.com: btw, i only started waking up super early when i signed up for the 8am pilates/yoga class a year or so ago evilevilcouch@gmail.com: also, random note -- evilevilcouch@gmail.com: lol evilevilcouch@gmail.com: like about the whole me being mad at you and you having no prob with me evilevilcouch@gmail.com: that's also prob because i've bscly completely adjusted to your schedule evilevilcouch@gmail.com: now, see, if you were at my place all that time and going with my schedule, you'd be cranky as fuck me: or maybe it's because I'm easygoing me: I was at your place today and yesterday while trying to get off suboxone and wasn't cranky at all evilevilcouch@gmail.com: i'm saying like evilevilcouch@gmail.com: if the first two weeks evilevilcouch@gmail.com: you were at my place every night evilevilcouch@gmail.com: and i made you wake up at 7am to exercise me: you did stay at my place more, actually me: I understand evilevilcouch@gmail.com: you'd throw a pillow at my face and tell me to fuck off so you could sleep evilevilcouch@gmail.com: lol evilevilcouch@gmail.com: so, yeah me: lol side note, Barry Eisler just stepped in to pwn Essig evilevilcouch@gmail.com: lol evilevilcouch@gmail.com: k evilevilcouch@gmail.com: i'ma pack up my stuffs and head over there evilevilcouch@gmail.com: also, with my crankiness, like, i get sorta cranky at having to haul all my shit to duder's place all the time evilevilcouch@gmail.com: granted, you hauled your shit to my place the past couple nights evilevilcouch@gmail.com: but i'm just saying that like with glenn and clay i always "had" to bring my shit to their place evilevilcouch@gmail.com: glenn never came to my place because he's socially retarded and doesn't like being around people he doesn't know (i.e. my roommates, any of my friends, etc) evilevilcouch@gmail.com: with clay it was because, even though he did freelance, he had to work at his place because he has a desktop evilevilcouch@gmail.com: he does film shit, so, yeah evilevilcouch@gmail.com: that and he has a dog evilevilcouch@gmail.com: and dogs poop outside evilevilcouch@gmail.com: kitties poop in a box me: okay, I understand you have residual frustration with past boyfriends evilevilcouch@gmail.com: so that was fair, i felt me: you've mentioned those a couple of times evilevilcouch@gmail.com: well, i mean, in general i'm fine with it evilevilcouch@gmail.com: i just get tired of it more easily now evilevilcouch@gmail.com: so it isn't really just frustration evilevilcouch@gmail.com: like, glenn would never help me carry my shit up three flights of stairs evilevilcouch@gmail.com: you help me carry stuff evilevilcouch@gmail.com: you're not a douchebag retard like glenn evilevilcouch@gmail.com: haha me: well, I mean then that you've used up your "I will take my stuff to my bf's place" points already me: And I understand that me: just realize that I didn't use up those points evilevilcouch@gmail.com: lol evilevilcouch@gmail.com: i'm not saying i'm bitter about it evilevilcouch@gmail.com: i'm just saying that it's a chore me: You didn't use up your "I have lots of objections to your behavior" points, because those were other girls evilevilcouch@gmail.com: and i have a lot of chores i'm behind on already evilevilcouch@gmail.com: hahaha me: Well, do what you have to do, sweetheart evilevilcouch@gmail.com: it takes a lot of effort/energy to do that everyday me: I'll carry your stuff up for you me: Better yet, just look on the bright side of things evilevilcouch@gmail.com: obviously i could just keep some shit over there evilevilcouch@gmail.com: but, again, we've been dating for three weeks evilevilcouch@gmail.com: so it's w/e me: When you're complaining about having to carry things from your car to someone's apartment, you've got it pretty good at that point evilevilcouch@gmail.com: again, i'm not cranky/frustrated about all that stuff rinnow evilevilcouch@gmail.com: granted, at certain times, yes, i have been evilevilcouch@gmail.com: lol evilevilcouch@gmail.com: but it's just cause i was getting sorta tired evilevilcouch@gmail.com: not in the bitchy "i'm tired of this shit!" evilevilcouch@gmail.com: but "aw, man, really? i gotta do that? damn. ugggggh fine" evilevilcouch@gmail.com: like, having to pack up my crap daily and make sure i have all my shit takes up a lot of one's working memory evilevilcouch@gmail.com: so i mainly got cranky because i had to spend a lot of energy focusing on that everyday evilevilcouch@gmail.com: again, it wasn't anything personal, i was just getting exhausted from it evilevilcouch@gmail.com: and i'm just more easily exhausted by it bc i'd do it a lot in the past evilevilcouch@gmail.com: lol me: Maybe what you need me: Is a good kick in the ass evilevilcouch@gmail.com: lol evilevilcouch@gmail.com: hey i'm not like me: for perspective evilevilcouch@gmail.com: complaining about it me: like evilevilcouch@gmail.com: right now me: NOT RIGHT NOW LOL evilevilcouch@gmail.com: i'm just trying to explain to you the processes in my head and whatnot me: good, I'm not kicking you in the ass right now me: understood evilevilcouch@gmail.com: bc bscly i just ran out of energy much more quickly me: it is helpful for you to tell me these things me: so I know when to dodge your punches evilevilcouch@gmail.com: and the longer i stay away from the minoubear the more it subconsciously stresses me out evilevilcouch@gmail.com: one night is fine me: well, we really need to think about setting up a litter box over here and having Mino come with you evilevilcouch@gmail.com: two nights is okay evilevilcouch@gmail.com: but after the second night i start worrying about her me: she can handle a little car trip every couple of days to be with you evilevilcouch@gmail.com: dude man evilevilcouch@gmail.com: carrying a cat me: dude me: dude me: I know me: I've had cats evilevilcouch@gmail.com: that's a lot of effort me: all my friends have cats evilevilcouch@gmail.com: like me: like me: I know evilevilcouch@gmail.com: i voiced this concern to glenn evilevilcouch@gmail.com: like me: I used to take my cat everywhere in college evilevilcouch@gmail.com: minou got out of the house the day before my birthday me: you're seeing a problem where none exists, I think evilevilcouch@gmail.com: when i was at glenn's evilevilcouch@gmail.com: and i was freaking out me: I'll get you a carrier evilevilcouch@gmail.com: she was gone for a day or two evilevilcouch@gmail.com: oh i have one me: you can put her in the carrier and bring her with you me: leave it out so she can get used to it evilevilcouch@gmail.com: so then glenn said to bring minou to his place evilevilcouch@gmail.com: but like evilevilcouch@gmail.com: glenn evilevilcouch@gmail.com: would make me take all my shit with me when i left in the morning evilevilcouch@gmail.com: and so i'd pack up the cat, her food, etc evilevilcouch@gmail.com: then in the morning pack all that shit up again evilevilcouch@gmail.com: it's really exhausting evilevilcouch@gmail.com: i'm just saying that if we bring minou to your place evilevilcouch@gmail.com: you'll help me with it evilevilcouch@gmail.com: because evilevilcouch@gmail.com: it takes a lot of energy me: no shit I'll help evilevilcouch@gmail.com: yay evilevilcouch@gmail.com: lol evilevilcouch@gmail.com: man evilevilcouch@gmail.com: like me: again, I understand you have terrible memories of some douchebag making you bring a bunch of shit back and forth me: you need to let go evilevilcouch@gmail.com: it was so stupid how glenn was such a douchetard evilevilcouch@gmail.com: hahaha me: and just accept the fucking present evilevilcouch@gmail.com: he'd make me carry all my shit myself evilevilcouch@gmail.com: up three flights of stairs evilevilcouch@gmail.com: even with the cat me: I GOT ARRESTED ON ACID ON MY 18TH BIRTHDAY evilevilcouch@gmail.com: i'm not bitter about it me: I WALKED OVER CORPSES IN AFRICA evilevilcouch@gmail.com: i'm just telling you evilevilcouch@gmail.com: lol evilevilcouch@gmail.com: i'm over it me: MY GIRLFRIEND DIED OF A FUCKING OVERDOSE me: clearly evilevilcouch@gmail.com: i'm just letting you know evilevilcouch@gmail.com: telling anecdotes me: just, let these things go evilevilcouch@gmail.com: about my past evilevilcouch@gmail.com: etc evilevilcouch@gmail.com: you know evilevilcouch@gmail.com: like me: I understand evilevilcouch@gmail.com: how people get to know each other me: just approach me with a blank slate evilevilcouch@gmail.com: lol evilevilcouch@gmail.com: duh evilevilcouch@gmail.com: i don't really have any ex bitterness me: and understand that whatever inconveniences you suffered due to Glenn don't apply here and are not relevant to our situation evilevilcouch@gmail.com: the only thing, though, is my ptsd from my sister me: you can tell me anecdotes and I want to hear them me: I understand that me: but I'm offering a solution regarding Minou me: as you'll see if you look back evilevilcouch@gmail.com: but also, though, the bit above where i talked about how to convince me to do things evilevilcouch@gmail.com: and the bit about where if someone starts saying something like how my sister would evilevilcouch@gmail.com: that wasn't me necessarily saying that that triggered the ptsd me: yes, that is important, and I understand that evilevilcouch@gmail.com: it mainly makes me rolls my eyes evilevilcouch@gmail.com: haha evilevilcouch@gmail.com: i just have zero respect for her evilevilcouch@gmail.com: she has the emotional maturity of a six year old me: but whether or not some guy made you carry your shit is not important when we're trying to best figure out how to keep your cat with you me: so, what do you think about bringing her in the carrier sometimes? me: THat will help to alleviate stress me: and also I like the cat evilevilcouch@gmail.com: so me mentioning my sister, in that respect, was basically me mentioning that the rhetorical devices that my sister employs are amongst those that don't work with me me: right me: and I certainly hope that I am not using that evilevilcouch@gmail.com: yeah evilevilcouch@gmail.com: prob not evilevilcouch@gmail.com: i dunno, don't care rinnow evilevilcouch@gmail.com: haha me: since you brought it up, I guess I did something like that me: i you tell me I can try not to in the future evilevilcouch@gmail.com: i think you said like once "i'm right. you're wrong." evilevilcouch@gmail.com: and that made me roll my eyes evilevilcouch@gmail.com: and i was basically done then me: I'm pretty sure I didn't say those exact words evilevilcouch@gmail.com: hahahaha evilevilcouch@gmail.com: it was when you were smashed at quarter evilevilcouch@gmail.com: and i was in pain evilevilcouch@gmail.com: but eh w/e me: the implication of any disagreement is that one person is right and the other is wrong evilevilcouch@gmail.com: uh me: yes, I'm familiar with pain evilevilcouch@gmail.com: i don't believe in that sorta ideology me: that's what a disagreement is evilevilcouch@gmail.com: um me: it's not an ideology evilevilcouch@gmail.com: well evilevilcouch@gmail.com: not necessarily me: if you tell me that I'm doing something wrong, and I disgree evilevilcouch@gmail.com: there is not necessarily a "right" and "wrong" when talking about perspectives me: aren't you saying that I am wrong and you are right? evilevilcouch@gmail.com: well evilevilcouch@gmail.com: uh evilevilcouch@gmail.com: if it's relative evilevilcouch@gmail.com: then how can there be a right/wrong? me: or if we have different opinions about how we're relating evilevilcouch@gmail.com: i'm saying like evilevilcouch@gmail.com: facts can be argued me: let me put it like this evilevilcouch@gmail.com: but if we're talking about a human relationship evilevilcouch@gmail.com: and their emotions evilevilcouch@gmail.com: and their behaviors/interactions and such evilevilcouch@gmail.com: it isn't so black and white me: Yes, sweetheart, but they remain facts, even - especially - in a human relationship evilevilcouch@gmail.com: uh me: obviously feelings differ me: sweetheart me: I know what you're saying evilevilcouch@gmail.com: okay me: human relationships, feelings, etc me: I know these things me: but when we discuss these things me: we are both using words evilevilcouch@gmail.com: so why are you arguing a right/wrong thing me: to describe certain things me: Am I arguing that? evilevilcouch@gmail.com: i don't think there is any sort of right/wrong with perception evilevilcouch@gmail.com: perception is perception me: well, one perceives what one perceives, but we were not arguing over perception, per se evilevilcouch@gmail.com: it was about boundaries, i think me: oh, yes evilevilcouch@gmail.com: and you said something about being right, and then made a statement that i was wrong me: boundaries are one of those things in which people have varying opinions me: My opinion, for instance evilevilcouch@gmail.com: but, also, i was only frustrated with you doing whatever because you were super drunk and i was sober evilevilcouch@gmail.com: and i didn't realize how drunk you were evilevilcouch@gmail.com: uh evilevilcouch@gmail.com: everyone has different boundaries evilevilcouch@gmail.com: "healthy" boundaries is relatively relative me: exactl evilevilcouch@gmail.com: but evilevilcouch@gmail.com: with like me: and I tend to associate with people who are informal because they are my friends me: if you were some guy me: I wouldn't grab a cigarette out of your purse me: I would stop and say hello evilevilcouch@gmail.com: yeah i know me: introduce myself evilevilcouch@gmail.com: also me: and then ask you for one evilevilcouch@gmail.com: like evilevilcouch@gmail.com: you were super drunk me: yes evilevilcouch@gmail.com: alcohol removes inhibitons me: I was me: but I would have done similar sober evilevilcouch@gmail.com: so bscly i was annoyed at you being so ridiculously drunk evilevilcouch@gmail.com: well evilevilcouch@gmail.com: sorta evilevilcouch@gmail.com: sorta not evilevilcouch@gmail.com: i just wasn't in the mood me: If I had known that this was going to be an issue, I would not have evilevilcouch@gmail.com: and you were super sloshed evilevilcouch@gmail.com: i think that's really it me: yes, you mentioned that me: I would have just asked someone else for a cigarette evilevilcouch@gmail.com: also, i understand your point about feeling comfortable, etc evilevilcouch@gmail.com: but i think i'd barely been home for the previous week me: I assumed that we had a level of familiarity whereby I could grab a cigarette out of your pack without going through a process first, and I was wrong evilevilcouch@gmail.com: and had barely seen my cat for the past week, except that afternoon evilevilcouch@gmail.com: i was just cranky/on edge me: then you need to bring your cat with you, like I said evilevilcouch@gmail.com: yeah me: and you need to do that, without discussing what prior issues involving old boyfriends may have prevented you from doing so in the past evilevilcouch@gmail.com: i mean, i don't care really if you just grab a cigarette from my purse or whatever me: do you see what I'm saying? evilevilcouch@gmail.com: yeah evilevilcouch@gmail.com: but evilevilcouch@gmail.com: i don't think the ex's are an issue in any manner evilevilcouch@gmail.com: i'm just saying that i hadn't had much alone time and haven't been on my schedule for like three weeks and had barely seen my cat evilevilcouch@gmail.com: and so i was irritable evilevilcouch@gmail.com: and cranky evilevilcouch@gmail.com: not saying you basically did anything wrong evilevilcouch@gmail.com: you were justifying it however you wanted evilevilcouch@gmail.com: regardless of that evilevilcouch@gmail.com: i wasn't in the mood evilevilcouch@gmail.com: and wanted to leave evilevilcouch@gmail.com: usually, if i'm cranky, i hang out by myself with the minoubear evilevilcouch@gmail.com: and don't hang out with peoples me: I understand me: but sometimes evilevilcouch@gmail.com: i think i was basically just getting annoyed by everything me: we're going to be together and you're going to get cranky evilevilcouch@gmail.com: i like my space evilevilcouch@gmail.com: we've been together 24/7 evilevilcouch@gmail.com: like evilevilcouch@gmail.com: we prob won't be around each other 24/7 me: in which case I hope you'll try to remember that I love you and have done nothing to hurt you evilevilcouch@gmail.com: i know me: and that it hurts me when you take that out on me for some small thing evilevilcouch@gmail.com: but also usually i just tell my friends when i need space and will leave and stuffs evilevilcouch@gmail.com: but see evilevilcouch@gmail.com: you're different me: I'll just leave it there evilevilcouch@gmail.com: in that evilevilcouch@gmail.com: i dunno me: Because that's what I want you to take away from this evilevilcouch@gmail.com: i'm in love with you and love being around you evilevilcouch@gmail.com: but i really do need more nikki time me: That's fine, I haven't made you not have Nikki time evilevilcouch@gmail.com: i has soz boobear :( evilevilcouch@gmail.com: i know, and you haven't forced me to stay at your place evilevilcouch@gmail.com: we've been in the throes evilevilcouch@gmail.com: haha me: did you see the rest of the gmail thread? me: with Essig? evilevilcouch@gmail.com: oh not yet me: the one I forwarded evilevilcouch@gmail.com: i'll read it when i'm there evilevilcouch@gmail.com: k i should leave nows evilevilcouch@gmail.com: be there in 10ish? me: very well I can narrate! me: okay evilevilcouch@gmail.com: lolol evilevilcouch@gmail.com: <3 :D me: lolollolol