Barrett

I rarely do “behind the scenes” emailing about posts I put up unless it is something serious. Many times such emailing can create hard feelings. I’m very open about myself, my background and see little reason not to engage in an open forum about what I post.

Unfortunately due to time constraints (i.e. my day job and family), I do not always read all the comment threads. I was, until yesterday, unaware of your offer to put me in touch with anyone about my Photoshops. I so sincerely thank you and yes, I would like that information.

I don’t believe you have been “uncivil” if we are talking about tone. However, the dishonesty I detected goes to your sky-diving into a thread and attempting to manufacture responses to your agenda. Now, of course, you will disagree with my assessment. But on the ACORN thread several commenters offered you legal descriptions of a “criminal enterprise” and you either refused to respond or brushed them off. Civilly, of course, but such a response gave immediate suspicion to commenters as a “bad faith” actor on your part.

I am a manager and as such I deal with all sorts of personnel issues on a day to day basis. I am “sensitized”, so to speak, on passive-aggressive behavior and how some people can appear “civil” and still be highly manipulative of others in order to produce the reactions they are looking for. I have found myself on more than one occasion counseling not only the reacting person on how they have been manipulated but also the person doing the manipulating. Interestingly, the manipulator always denies their role; and sometimes that is because they are entirely unaware of their own behavior.

I honestly believe if you really wanted to engage on good faith debate, the PW regulars would have given you that debate. As you know, I indeed corrected commenters that you were a “Leftist”. However, PW regulars are suspicious (and with very good reason) of bad faith debaters. It would be helpful if you realized your own role in creating the reactions you received.

If I may make an analogy – you cannot arrive at a party were everyone is enjoying themselves and make snide comments about the quality of the guests and party food and not get heated reactions. Barrett, regardless of your resume, people look at behavior first and foremost. A disdain based on a perceived idea of how “low brow” everyone else in the room is a sure recipe to receive hostility. No one wants to be on the receiving end of barely disguised condescension.

My offer to talk to you by phone is not in order to avoid a paper trail. Indeed, at work I put into place an A.V.O. procedure (avoid verbal orders). However, I wanted it more as an opportunity for you to understand me as an actual living breathing human being and why I think the way I do. My presumption, at this time and fully acknowledged that I may be wrong, is that you carry some sort of cartoon idea of what I am (or any of the people at PW) in your head. I am looking to disabuse you of that notion.

Last September I did an interview with Skewz about PW and I think you should listen to it to give you at least some idea of who I am and how the PW commentariat works.

http://www.mevio.com/episode/125035/Skewz+Podcast+25+Talking+About+the+Nanny-State+And+Media+Bias+with+Darleen+Click+of+Protein+Wisdom

Sincerely

Darleen